Dear Annie:
My husband wants a divorce but after 20 years of raising children and working together in a marriage, He claims to have found someone special and wants to be with her. What I can’t believe is how brusque and dismissive he is of me. What should I do?
Lost in the wilderness
Dear Lost:
The stark motive is that he’s probably found something shiny and new and you represent a trade-in. That may seem harsh but he sounds like someone who lacks perspective in life and has no sense of the value of a long term committment. Being so easily ready to move on to a new releationship says much more about his lack of self-esteem and desperate need for self-gratification than it does about you. Couples who marry should be willing to run the marathon because that’s what it is and the benefits are tremendous while his new thrill is, in most cases, just that, a new thrill that will eventually become the next bore.
These will be emotionally tough times but hang in there and know that the aching loss you’re feeling now will eventually pass and open the door for someone who will truly value you.
- Annie